God created humans to enjoy sex and sensuality immensely and intensely. Yet, these are to be experienced within marriage. When practiced in this context, it’s designed to be a mutually awe-inspiring, powerful experience that carries the full blessing of God.
In essence, sex is about intercourse, while sensuality is about bringing pleasure to each other. Sometimes this includes sex, but many times does not. Sex is making sure you get what you want and need. Sensuality is giving, serving, and pleasing your partner. When combined, sex and sensuality provide an opportunity to experience the whole range of sensual pleasure, demonstrate faithfulness, and practice self-control.
One way of approaching sex and sensuality is to consider each one as a gift. We like a gift for a variety of reasons. We like the way it makes us feel. Or, it meets a need. Perhaps we enjoy the experience it brings. The same is true for why God gave us the gift of physical intimacy. It feels good, it meets a need, and we enjoy the experience. Let’s face it: it’s fun & exciting.
If someone doesn’t like sex or sensuality, it’s usually because there’s been some pain in the experience of it. Somewhere along the way the person might have been abused, mistreated, taken advantage of, ridiculed, betrayed, or abandoned. Or it hurts physically.
If this is the case in your marriage, it might be helpful to talk about it together and to seek professional help, because in a normal, healthy marriage the gift of intimacy is a wonderful part of the relationship, and giving yourself to your partner intimately is one of the most valuable gifts you can give.
If you and your partner will honor your marriage and maintain sexual and sensual purity, you will meet each other’s needs and capture each other’s imagination. The gift you give each other will be beyond comparison. Choosing to honor your mate and your marriage will always have great results.
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2 Replies to “Sex and Sensuality”
There’s a world of difference between the two. My wife and I, both older now, agree that our “love life” is sweeter and better than ever. Yes Virginia, old people make love too. What we discovered a few years ago is that sex is a result of our love for one another. We’ve discovered that those feelings and emotions aren’t a direct result of a physical act, but it’s the love shared between a man and wife. As we like to state; “Love is what’s left with the lust is gone.” Very good post sir.
Our piously prudish upbringing stifled the very pleasures of being young and just married; as our reformed religious consciences stopped us from discovering the nice Jesus-designed bits intended for nothing but sexual pleasure. Thirty-odd years alter and some nawty movies finally educated us and I fret and regret the stifling religion we grew up in. It is a crime against humanity to kill God’s goodness, when HE has a twinkle in His eye!